"You should have had a different baby boy. One that wasn't so mean to me."
- Sarah, whispering to me about Andy this morning. She then proceeded to tell me that I should sell him at the "store where people can buy other people" and get an identical twin replacement.
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Milestones
I know I've written in the past about how my kids can't seem to do things that other kids do so naturally. Andy is 10 and I'm pretty sure he still can't ride a bike. Oh, he can ride it, but starting and stopping is questionable. Sarah is definitely not there and Charlie and I both recently tried and quickly gave up teaching her. If you truly understood how much she whines and cries about everything you wouldn't have much patience for it either. Seriously, after spending some time with her over the holidays April from New Jersey told me she thought I had been exaggerating about Sarah but realized truly I was being generous in my descriptions.
When my sister and her family came in August Sarah was distraught by the fact that her cousin, Ella, could swing by herself without needing pushes and I did not ever think she was going to get to that place. But alas, a few weeks ago she proved me wrong. Out of nowhere, somewhere deep within, it all of a sudden clicked and finally our instructions of how to "show your feet, hide your feet" or "lean back when going forward and lean forward when going back" made sense. One day she could just do it, and once she figured it out she didn't want to stop.
She came home after school and all she wanted to do was swing in the backyard. When I told her she had to do her homework first (which usually consists of reading one book and takes about 10 minutes), I was intentionally trying to prevent her from swinging and was destroying her life - or something of that nature. Day after day she would spend on the play set seeing how high she could go and how quickly she could get going. She was so incredibly proud of herself and it is amazing how much her confidence grew, just by learning that one simple thing.
I was proud of her for sure, but all I could think was it's about time! I still have no idea if and when she'll figure out the bike riding, but hopefully knowing how to do this will give her the confidence to realize if she can conquer one impossible take she can conquer another.
As for Amanda, she's getting there too. Over the weekend she figured out how to pull herself up onto the swing without any help. Hopefully she will get the swinging part down sooner than later.
When my sister and her family came in August Sarah was distraught by the fact that her cousin, Ella, could swing by herself without needing pushes and I did not ever think she was going to get to that place. But alas, a few weeks ago she proved me wrong. Out of nowhere, somewhere deep within, it all of a sudden clicked and finally our instructions of how to "show your feet, hide your feet" or "lean back when going forward and lean forward when going back" made sense. One day she could just do it, and once she figured it out she didn't want to stop.
She came home after school and all she wanted to do was swing in the backyard. When I told her she had to do her homework first (which usually consists of reading one book and takes about 10 minutes), I was intentionally trying to prevent her from swinging and was destroying her life - or something of that nature. Day after day she would spend on the play set seeing how high she could go and how quickly she could get going. She was so incredibly proud of herself and it is amazing how much her confidence grew, just by learning that one simple thing.
I was proud of her for sure, but all I could think was it's about time! I still have no idea if and when she'll figure out the bike riding, but hopefully knowing how to do this will give her the confidence to realize if she can conquer one impossible take she can conquer another.
As for Amanda, she's getting there too. Over the weekend she figured out how to pull herself up onto the swing without any help. Hopefully she will get the swinging part down sooner than later.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
A Blessing in Disguise
Andy is very similar to my brother, David. He's a complete antagonist, knows how to push everybody's buttons and gets pure entertainment out of pissing people off. He's smart, and he knows it, extremely confident, and convinced that he is always right and knows everything. I love them both, of course, but growing up as Dave's little sister who often got the brunt of his obnoxious behavior makes it pretty hard to parent someone just like that.
Last week Andy got grounded. When he gets grounded, it's always from electronics. I don't know that this punishment makes him rethink his actions and prevents him from doing the same exact thing in the future, but it's the only thing we know to do that is painful for him. He was grounded for a week and then got a few days tacked on for bad behavior, so it has been quite awhile since he's gotten to touch the computer (other than to do homework), his DS, his PlayStation or the iPad. He has gotten to watch tv, because we can't make the girls stop watching tv as well, but he's been forced to watch all their princess and Disney Jr. shows (that don't appeal to him but he secretly likes). Andy is like me and can pretty much get sucked into anything that's on tv, so it hasn't been too bad in that respect, but I'm sure he would like to be watching something else.
Generally when he gets grounded I moan and groan inside, because him getting punished is almost like me getting punished. He follows me around and asks me what he can do and he pesters me and he picks on the girls. A lot. When Andy is grounded the complaint level from Sarah and Amanda goes way up because he pays more attention to them, which is usually not a good thing. This time it was a little different.
I'm not going to lie, there definitely were some moments in the last week when the fighting and teasing was a little out of hand, but overall it was pretty enjoyable. He read several books this week which made us both happy. One afternoon we played a game of chess and another he and Amanda played Indiana Jones (Amanda was Kentucky Amanda). They played outside a little bit, when it wasn't snowing, and we even did a little shopping. All in all, a pretty good week.
Tomorrow he gets his electronics back. We may not see him for a few days. Or, he may put the joystick down and do some reading or adventuring or game playing. I hope it's the latter, there's so much fun to be had.
Last week Andy got grounded. When he gets grounded, it's always from electronics. I don't know that this punishment makes him rethink his actions and prevents him from doing the same exact thing in the future, but it's the only thing we know to do that is painful for him. He was grounded for a week and then got a few days tacked on for bad behavior, so it has been quite awhile since he's gotten to touch the computer (other than to do homework), his DS, his PlayStation or the iPad. He has gotten to watch tv, because we can't make the girls stop watching tv as well, but he's been forced to watch all their princess and Disney Jr. shows (that don't appeal to him but he secretly likes). Andy is like me and can pretty much get sucked into anything that's on tv, so it hasn't been too bad in that respect, but I'm sure he would like to be watching something else.
Generally when he gets grounded I moan and groan inside, because him getting punished is almost like me getting punished. He follows me around and asks me what he can do and he pesters me and he picks on the girls. A lot. When Andy is grounded the complaint level from Sarah and Amanda goes way up because he pays more attention to them, which is usually not a good thing. This time it was a little different.
I'm not going to lie, there definitely were some moments in the last week when the fighting and teasing was a little out of hand, but overall it was pretty enjoyable. He read several books this week which made us both happy. One afternoon we played a game of chess and another he and Amanda played Indiana Jones (Amanda was Kentucky Amanda). They played outside a little bit, when it wasn't snowing, and we even did a little shopping. All in all, a pretty good week.
Tomorrow he gets his electronics back. We may not see him for a few days. Or, he may put the joystick down and do some reading or adventuring or game playing. I hope it's the latter, there's so much fun to be had.
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Say What?
My friend, April from New Jersey, recently wrote a blog post about how she loves the fact that, although sometimes it takes a few minutes of hard thinking, she can pretty much understand everything her three-yr-old (who is two months younger than Amanda) says. Even when he gets his context mixed up or says things in a way that doesn't normally make sense, she can figure it out.
I definitely have days when I am spot on with Amanda and we have wonderful, funny conversations about roller coasters and cows and whether or not she will be a Daddy when she grows up or if she will be tall enough to touch the ceiling (I still say no on the last two, she thinks she can beat the odds). There are other days, however, when I don't have a clue what the hell she is saying. I'll ask her to repeat herself, say it another way, show me, draw a picture, act it out like charades (no, just kidding there), anything to try to figure out what she's saying. I either get it eventually or I give up and she is so annoyed with me.
The main reason we have this communication problem is because she says all her letters wrong. She still says Nes instead of Yes, but for some reason can say Yep just fine, and drops a lot of letters at the beginning of words like H and C and S. If it's a word she uses a lot you just know what it is, but if she's talking about something new I'm lost. She probably needs to go to speech therapy to get it all worked out, and I've mentioned it to her a few times, but I'm going to wait a little and see if she figures it out for herself. We're not in any hurry, especially since she's has two years of preschool left before she starts kindergarten, and there are a few words that she had fixed already and things she has gotten better about so it may just be a matter of time.
No matter how hard it is for me to understand her, it is equally that easy for Sarah to understand. Still. So this morning we're in the car driving to swimming and Amanda says something to Sarah. To me it's like the teacher from the Peanuts is talking, "wha wha wha wha wha whaaaa". But of course Sarah responds with, "yeah, that would be so awesome. Or if...." and they go into this whole long conversation about whatever it was Amanda brought up in the first place. It's almost like you're hearing one side of a phone conversation or a friend who's parent is talking to them in a foreign language but they are answering back in English.
I'll get it eventually, but it sure would be nice if it was sooner than later.
I definitely have days when I am spot on with Amanda and we have wonderful, funny conversations about roller coasters and cows and whether or not she will be a Daddy when she grows up or if she will be tall enough to touch the ceiling (I still say no on the last two, she thinks she can beat the odds). There are other days, however, when I don't have a clue what the hell she is saying. I'll ask her to repeat herself, say it another way, show me, draw a picture, act it out like charades (no, just kidding there), anything to try to figure out what she's saying. I either get it eventually or I give up and she is so annoyed with me.
The main reason we have this communication problem is because she says all her letters wrong. She still says Nes instead of Yes, but for some reason can say Yep just fine, and drops a lot of letters at the beginning of words like H and C and S. If it's a word she uses a lot you just know what it is, but if she's talking about something new I'm lost. She probably needs to go to speech therapy to get it all worked out, and I've mentioned it to her a few times, but I'm going to wait a little and see if she figures it out for herself. We're not in any hurry, especially since she's has two years of preschool left before she starts kindergarten, and there are a few words that she had fixed already and things she has gotten better about so it may just be a matter of time.
No matter how hard it is for me to understand her, it is equally that easy for Sarah to understand. Still. So this morning we're in the car driving to swimming and Amanda says something to Sarah. To me it's like the teacher from the Peanuts is talking, "wha wha wha wha wha whaaaa". But of course Sarah responds with, "yeah, that would be so awesome. Or if...." and they go into this whole long conversation about whatever it was Amanda brought up in the first place. It's almost like you're hearing one side of a phone conversation or a friend who's parent is talking to them in a foreign language but they are answering back in English.
I'll get it eventually, but it sure would be nice if it was sooner than later.
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Back on Track
I went away for the weekend, back to Dallas to visit some friends. I didn't get to see everybody I want to see, but I did get to see four very special people, so I'm good. It was so nice to go out with my friends and just laugh and laugh, something I don't feel like I've done too much in the last nine months.
I got home Sunday night and the kids filled me in on their wonderful weekend with Charlie. Amanda informed me that she liked Daddy more than me because he was a lot more fun. I'm okay with that, she is not the first of my kids to tell me that and she is right. He is more fun. That's why I like him too. I'm just happy that I can go away and come home to happy kids and a clean house. It allows me to do it again sometime.
On Monday it was back to normal except on Monday afternoon it started to snow. It was coming down hard and fast and we wondered whether or not school was going to get cancelled, but we decided no because everyone had been snookered the week before. In the end they did not cancel school but there was more snow on the ground than last week. Of course typical Denver weather, all of the snow melted today and it's like it never happened.
Today Amanda and I dropped of two big storage totes worth of clothes at the Denver consignment sale. Yes, I'm back to trying to clear out my house, get rid of my mess, minimize. I doubt I will every truly get to where I want to be, but I can try. At least the office looks better, and I'll have a little cash in my pocket when it's all over.
So that's it. Nothing hilarious to report, just that we're finally back in the groove. Eight more weeks of school and then hopefully an amazing summer.
I got home Sunday night and the kids filled me in on their wonderful weekend with Charlie. Amanda informed me that she liked Daddy more than me because he was a lot more fun. I'm okay with that, she is not the first of my kids to tell me that and she is right. He is more fun. That's why I like him too. I'm just happy that I can go away and come home to happy kids and a clean house. It allows me to do it again sometime.
On Monday it was back to normal except on Monday afternoon it started to snow. It was coming down hard and fast and we wondered whether or not school was going to get cancelled, but we decided no because everyone had been snookered the week before. In the end they did not cancel school but there was more snow on the ground than last week. Of course typical Denver weather, all of the snow melted today and it's like it never happened.
Today Amanda and I dropped of two big storage totes worth of clothes at the Denver consignment sale. Yes, I'm back to trying to clear out my house, get rid of my mess, minimize. I doubt I will every truly get to where I want to be, but I can try. At least the office looks better, and I'll have a little cash in my pocket when it's all over.
So that's it. Nothing hilarious to report, just that we're finally back in the groove. Eight more weeks of school and then hopefully an amazing summer.
Thursday, April 11, 2013
Kid Quote of the Day
"The first one up [the stairs] is a...a...a person!"
-Amanda, I guess rotten egg wasn't coming to mind.
-Amanda, I guess rotten egg wasn't coming to mind.
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